The beginning of life and the end are similar; the intensity, the mystery, and the unknowns. Renee's role as a Doula is to help people design their final time on this earth as they wish, assisting with death anxiety, and supporting the dying with acceptance of their life lived and life-ending through compassionate listening, mindful guidance and gentle touch.
Renee's intention is to support the person dying in embracing their transition with compassion, understanding, and grace. Her center of attention is to have each person die with dignity and loving care. As she comes into this space, she offers support and guidance to loved ones moving through loss and grief while exhausted and confused as they care for their loved ones.
Dying is the last thing one will do; it is the ultimate surrender as one relinquishes a sense of control and softens to the moment and to know we have the opportunity to go through this with warmth, love and comfort.
Death is a life event which should be held in the hands of love.
Death Doula Services
There are unique needs and supports each person and their loved ones require when a palliative diagnosis is given, or when death is approaching from age. Based on personal beliefs, values, wishes and requirements, Renee offers individualized services and packages created together.
Renee shows up with a deep connection to each client and their loved ones. Being open to listening to your concerns, frustrations and fears about what this transition means and how to navigate medical systems with the logistics of planning and ensure all additional services are organized.
As a certified Death Doula, Renee is approved by the End of Life Association of Canada
Description of Services
Compassionate Listening, Life Reflection, Death Anxiety Guidance and Spiritual Support
Renee offers guidance for deeper reflection while creating a space that allows the dying to reminisce, release and heal regrets, and move through acceptance of death. As a Reiki therapist and Buddhism Psychotherapist, she creates a space which guides a more profound connection through conversation and meditation, which can ease death anxiety. Research shows that meditation with guided imagery can reduce death anxiety and soften body and breath to help with the pain. Each session is client-led, and Renee skillfully listens to what they need physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
These sessions provide deep compassion and loving-kindness to the dying process; where there may be attachments and resistance, we open up to acceptance and love. To acknowledge the fear of the unknown, the grief of life living and what all these means, we don't have to shy away from it; when we open to it, we find the way home.
Palliative Diagnosis Navigation, Death and Grief Awareness, Advanced Planning and Support
When death approaches from age, terminal disease or a palliative diagnosis, many emotions, thoughts and concerns begin to surface for the dying and their loved ones. These moments become challenging to navigate with all the emotions while handling the logistics of the medical systems, doctor visits, and life responsibilities.
Renee offers support, guidance, and facilitation with clear communication between doctors, the palliative team, home nurses, hospice, MAiD, funeral homes, and crematoriums. She has over 15 years experience collaborating to ensure person-centered planning is leading the way.
Vigil and Ceremional Creation
Creation of a Loving Comfortable Space, Planning of Death Ceremony, and Holding Vigil
It is with such importance that we see, know, and act that the dying are living until their final breath. Renee comes to create peace and beauty with a deep connection to love in the last months, weeks and moments of life. She believes the dying space should reflect the person and their loved ones - remembering death is not medical and shouldn't be cold, tasteless, or sterile. Renee is a death educator who will guide loved ones to care for the dying with respect to knowing they will always be with dignity.
In planning the last moments in life as a ceremony, death can become sacred with peace, beauty and full of love. Together a plan will have been created during a Vigil Planning session, allowing everyone involved to understand and honuor the wishes of the dying and requests made by loved ones.
Renee will be with you to plan and identify who will be present and any rituals, music, and readings desired; there may also be particular scents, sounds, lighting, and touch to comfort the individual passing. This is when family and friends are welcome to gather in support, compassion, and love or perhaps the dying person has chosen to be alone. Renee also guides loved ones in the depth of grief.
Knowing the active dying process may take several days, which can be emotionally exhausting and overwhelming. Renee supports the dying process's essential aspects, which makes this experience a sacred one for all involved.